By Garek Lee
In your relationship, there will be times when your sex life feels less than fabulous – occasions when you are simply turned off or when you don’t feel like putting in the effort. Sometimes, these are normal feelings, but if these events are happening time and time again, you might find it will harm your sex life moving forwards and the relationships you form and keep.
So, before it is too late, what positive steps can you take to improve your sex life?
Focus on Communication
Talking about what you want and also sharing expectations and fantasies are important. Bland and unexciting sex often happens when communication is not a focal point, so before you expect a boost in your sex life, consider how well you communicate with your partner.
Ideally, you need to make sure that you talk about how you both feel and what you both desire. If you are not communicating, you will both be holding back – and this will not have a positive outcome for either of you.
Purchase Sex Toys Together
Spicing up your time in and out of the bedroom and giving each other greater pleasure is crucial for a successful sex life. As such, after establishing what you need and desire through communication, you then may want to start purchasing sex toys together – an excellent way to liven up your time in the bedroom together.
When you visit a sex toy store, you may find you are drawn to items you had never even considered before – perhaps toys built for both of your pleasure or those that are made for heightening the overall mutual experience.
In any case, when you purchase sex toys with your sexual partner, you build anticipation and excitement, which will give your sex life a much-needed boost and bring you and your lover closer together.
Being Open to Change and Trying New Things
To bolster your sex life, you need to look at trying new things – much like sex toys, as mentioned above. Plus, you may also need to be open to change, but such change does not have to be big to have a noticeable impact on your sex life.
Consider looking into where you can make changes to your sex life, relationship, and any other governing factors affecting them both. Often, there are things you want to try and experiment with, but your aversion to change and apprehensive mindset might hold you back. Remember, focusing on your mindset and approach to sex can help you be more open to change and growth – so try to include those in the changes you make.
Boost Your Self-Confidence
When you boost your self-confidence, you automatically feel great about yourself – and when you feel great, you have a higher chance of having fantastic sex, not just ‘OK’ sex.
To boost your self-confidence, you need to love your body and embrace who you are. Wanting to alter yourself or not feeling confident with your body and mind is a big turn-off, so try to avoid this type of negativity where you can.
Focus on Flirting
The build-up to sex is sometimes the best part, and when this is rushed, the main act can feel like a bit of a non-event – or, in some cases, a full-on letdown! However, to make sure this doesn’t happen, you need to focus on foreplay and flirting beforehand.
Build suspense and excitement with compliments and dirty talk, as well as little touches and moves in sensitive areas that ignite passion and desire for one another – this will heighten your sexual experience and see you have some of the best sex of your life.
